Happiness is an Inside Job!!
To many times I have heard from my clients: “I just want to Be Happy”, “I would like to FEEL joy” “I want to BE successful” My question back to them is; So what choices are you making that is keeping you from being that way?
Have you noticed the optimal word is “BE” and “Feel” If I came up to you and said “I want you to envision something that makes you feel sad”,regardless of what kind of mind frame or what we like to call “ our mood”, Most likely you could get yourself to feel sad.
Now, if I said, envision something that makes you really happy, you could switch the sad to feelings of being happy. Actors and Actress do it all the time. They learn to control their emotions.
So is it fair to say that all of our feelings are really what we choose to feel and be at that moment?
If all we want is to “BE HAPPY” what is it that keeps us from allowing these feeling to filter through to lift our spirit? It really comes down to what WE decide to make us happy.
Our definition of Happiness is a feeling that we create for ourselves to be fulfilled. If I suggested to some of my female friends “Lets go paragliding because that’s what makes me happy. (Which btw, it does) Most of them would rather pay $150 to get their hair done because that is what makes them happy. It’s all a choice!!!
In my humble opinion to feel happy and joyous it is really based on our own actions and needs.No one or one thing can “Make” you happy or unhappy. It really comes down to what you allow and the choices that you make to create your own inner joy.
If you surround yourself with someone who is always complaining and miserable in his or her own life, it is an environment that is not positive and will leave you feeling drained. I call these individuals Emotional Black Holes, the person who sucks the life out of you, so when you walk away you are left feeling emotionally drained.
Than there is that one person you can be around for 5 minutes and you leave feeling inspired and lifted. Almost recharged. That is the person who should be your new best friend. However, it works both ways, you have to be there to lift them up too.
So…What are the GPS coordinates to the Road to Happiness?
Choose Your Happiness!!
Appreciate what you have
There is always someone in this world that has it worse than you and they are still happy.
Weigh out what is really important and what is irreverent
There are things that can affect us in a strong way. However, you still have to choose how long you would like that feeling to exist within you.
Remove yourself from the people who think the light at the end of the tunnel is a Train!!
Surround yourself with positive people and build that relationship. The people you surround yourself with should leave you feeling good about them and yourself. Take the negative Nelly’s and Ned’s in small doses and eventually remove them all together (unless they’re family, than small doses only when needed)
Choose to work and do Hobbies that are meaningful to you
Use your time and effort where you feel engaged toward your goals. We all have to deal with finances. However, how awesome would it be, if you finished your day and looked back on those 8 hours and felt proud and accomplished?
Giving is so easy!! Give food, give time, give a smile to a stranger on the street. What you will get in return is priceless!!
Choose a Spiritual Life
Whether it is in prayer, meditation or a moment of silence. Give yourself at least 10 minutes a day to stop and regroup.
Take Care of you
Do something for your physical health. Change one unhealthy food to something beneficial for your body. Exercise creates happy endorphin’s. Take a walk. You can be one step away from a happy mood.
We all live with the objective of being happy; our lives are all different and yet the same…Anne Frank
Mikki St. Germain